We read this in our men’s study group, while the women are reading Captivating…  I never could get into this book.  Doesn’t help that I missed a few Sunday’s.  But I also don’t think it was for me.  It never caught me the way Wild At Heart did.  Most of what is in this book is in Wild at Heart, but Wild at Heart was much more encompassing.

After watching the movie “Capote” back in December, I wanted to read at least a couple of Truman Capote’s books.  I decided on “In Cold Blood” to start, since that is really what the movie was about.  It is somewhat fascinating to compare the movie, which is really about Capote writing this book, and even more so about Capote himsel, at least at that point in his life, to the book, which is really about the murders that took place, and has nothing to do with Capote himself other than it is through his eyse that you see the story.  It is told almost as a documentary, with lots of interviews and quotes, along with research into this crime and others like it that had occured in the same era.   I love the movie — Hoffman did a great job portraying Capote — but the book is just so-so.  A good read for the story, but there isn’t anything beyond that.

After watching the movie, which I thought was great, I really wanted to read this.  Besides, two people told me I definitely need to read it after they saw my movie post.

I read it to Riley, and it was fun seeing how many differences between the movie and the book (of which there are plenty) Riley could see, and walking her through the ones she did not catch.

And it is not often that I say this, but I think the movie is better than the book as far as how the story plays out and the subtleties of the characters and of the character relationships.  I don’t want to put any spoilers here, so if you want to find out the differences, you can contact me directly, or just read the book and watch the movie to find out yourself.

I highly recommend both the movie and the book for parents and children.

This is a very technical (i.e. textbook-like) book.  I have learned a fair amount of anatomy from my knee journey over the years, visiting doctors, physical therapists, structural integration and rolfers, etc., but this book still had a ton of information about the knee that I do not know — not to mention the rest of the body.   It is probably more geared to yoga instructors than practitioners, especially those yoga instructors that really get into anatomy and working with those who have injuries and/or are trying to prevent injuries.  However, for those that are working towards their own practice, or to take their own practice to the next level, it would also be beneficial.  The nuances of muscle usage within each pose that is discussed is very detailed, so that you see how the slightest overuse of a muscle in a given pose, or rotation here or there, can have dramatic effects on other muscles and alignments.

I read the 1st few chapters in detail, and then started working through the poses.  But I quickly discovered that you really need to work each pose while reading — or read, then do the pose, then read a little more, then do the pose again, etc.  So that is what I now plan to do for many of the poses in this book.

This is one of the best, most profound, non-fiction books I have ever read, and I plan to read it again in the future — maybe a year or so from now.  I also need to spend a little time leafing through it and looking at all my highlighted passages and dog-eared pages.  It is the type of book that needs time and reflection to let it really sink in.

I was going to say that I wish I had read this book two years ago, but after thinking about it, I have decided that sometimes, reflecting back with the new knowledge and ideas gained from a book may be more edifying than having gone through certain situations with the book’s knowledge in hand (head?).  Or, to put it another way, the book probably would not have meant much to me two years ago, whereas now it means a lot.

I have read a few business books, and a few leadership books, but never one written from the viewpoint of how a Christian should be called to lead.  Much of what is discussed in the book is leadership in terms of being a pastor, or being the leader of a religious school, but all of the principles can and should be applied to leadership in any situation.  And really, as Allender points out, all of us are leaders to some extent, whether it is with our children at home, or any time someone looks to us for guidance in any particular situation.

Just last week I had dinner with a friend who is an agnostic, but had read Wild at Heart (see my post on that here) based on my post about it, but he was able to put aside the religion in the book and still take something away.  I applaud him, or anyone, for being able to do that, especially when many of the main themes and examples are all religious based.  For any atheist or agnostic leader out there, if you can do that with this book, I would highly recommend it.

It is almost impossible to give a short synopsis of  this book, as there is a wealth of information beyond the basic premise that as a leader, it is best to acknowledge your short comings to those you lead (as well as yourself!).  But beyond that, there is tremendous wisdom in how to structure an organization, how to grow the people within the organization (in terms of character) and the organization itself, how to create the vision and mission of an organization, etc., etc., etc.  Highly highly recommended!

A few quotes that stood out by themselves, but these are just minor one-offs compared to larger sections, themes, and ideas presented throughout the book:

The person who merely puts up with life becomes a manager or a bureaucrat, not a leader.

Courage is almost a contradiction in terms.  It means a strong desire to live taking the form of a readiness to die.  [ This is Allender quoting G.K. Chesterson…]

We always predict the future by reading the present from a frame of reference that was established in the past.

… a dogmatic religious fundamentalist is more similar to a dogmatic atheist than he is to people who share his beliefs but are still seeking greater clarity in their beliefs.  The common link between contradictory ideologies is rigidity or the refusal to remain open to new beliefs and new ways of understanding old convictions.

… growth in character occurs to the degree that we accept being forgiven as a greater gift than life itself.  If the greatest gift is not what I see but how I am seen by the living God, then my gratitude knows no limits.